for a long time i didn't know where my hymen was or even what it was. i just knew that it was a thin membrane that eventually gets torn or stretched. i can't recall my hymen ever being torn so i assumed it just did when i was younger and i didn't notice, or i never had one at all like some girls. i did some research on hymens and found that the hymen is actually near the opening of the vagina, not further back into it as i had thought. i also found that there are several different ways the hymen can be attached (or unattached). my hymen looks like four flower petals and i think it's adorable.